Are Men Doing Their Jobs in the Bedroom?

I would like to hear why soo many women are not satisfied and whether the dissatisfaction is caused by things that men can fix.

I think men get set in whatever rythym they had when they met you. They assume because they kept you with whatever they were doing before that it should be ok. IT's not working. We are getting bored. You do the same thing. You get it over with too fast. What is wrong with you? Do something different.

To Jennifer Henry: Most illegitimate babies are usually one night stands. So once or twice or even 3 times can't really determine how well they will be in bed. When you are in heat that first time it really isn't saying much. But it seems like men fall off once they are married or in a relationship for a long period of time. I suggest that we pray about our s*x lives to those that are married. God can show you and your spouse ways to make it better. But the man first has to know that he isn't making it happen. God is the creator of s*x so I think he would know what should be done in the bedroom. But so many people think that's nasty. Why can't you pray for a better s*x life with your spouse?

To the Mom of 4, that is what I am talking about: Tell us what we are doing wrong. We discuss this issue maybe we can solve the problem.

I wish I knew the man who could handle that job. I seem to run into Playas and braggers. After they doze off, they think breakfast will be served. When I don't go for the second roll, it becomes that I am a B..... Besides, too many of them are somebody else's leftovers in the styrafoam container. It doesn't get better with age, they just lose teeth and get gas. I raised 2 daughters alone, working 3 jobs to make sure they had the things their friends had. Even without the bedroom, deadbeat dads are not doing their jobs as men.

I've meet men who have gotten bad press and guys who the ladies have lied to about their skills. IT"S THE WOMEN fault man aren't doing their jobs because they are lieing to this guys about what they are doing in the bed instead of schooling them on how to do it right, so the next woman he gets with will not have to put up with the mess she made. I've experienced this once with a younger guy. and his ego was so i couldn't tell him anything so i stop wasting my time with him. other then that all the men i've dealt with have stills and love it when you ease instruction on them in a non instruction way.

I'ma get in on this conversation. I'm a young head but most I know say I have an old soul. I pay attention to my surroundings and what people go through. The question to the men has not been answered in the forum. You asked what are you doing wrong? I'll tell you. You are not realizing that every woman is different. The things you did to one, the other may not like. If you wanna know what a woman likes, ask her. If she doesn't tell you, get away. Nothing is more horrible than being with someone who can not be open about doing grown business. If you want a man to lay it down and cuddle with you afterwards you have to tell him. Men are not mind-readers so if you want something, it's time to come off that idea that every man should know your wants and needs because it is not gonna happen. Not now...NOT EVER!

Umm . . . I haven't had a date since Clinton was in office (by choice) so I truly hope those who are are doing well. In the meantime, here's my two cents http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/3...

No men are not doing what they are capable of doing. Many men think having s*x is just to have a orgasm. NOT

No men are not doing their job in the bedroom ; it seems as though it's all about "banging out or punishing" when it needs to be about passion and romance. But, hey that's just me!!

My attitude is to go into the bedroom to please and satisfy. If I get no response I ask questions and even for directions.

i hated it when a man talks all that stuff and when to get there, they are already there and thank they just did something. what happen to fourplay it seems they just want to be laid and never made your feelings.

Some of the women are having a field day with this topic, and overwhelmingly the survey indicates men are not putting it down. In my comments to this poll, I ask why aren’t men taking care of business. You cannot solve a problem if you don’t know the cause. Some have made a few responses: too quick, too often, no intimacy, no this and no that. From talking to some women and reading a few articles about this issue, I know men and women view s*x differently. The physical aspects of s*x primarily satisfy men. However, the mental aspects of s*x primarily satisfy women. There is some common ground for both s*xes here, so I don’t think it explains true cause of the problem. I don’t think it is as simple as “I like it this way, but can’t do it to me this way.”

We have read the statistics above (75 million women are not satisfied). Here is another one from the American Journal of Medicine: approximately 43 percent of women are not satisfied with s*x. Problems include: lack of s*xual desire inability to become aroused, lack of orgasm, and painful intercourse.
These problems may have physical or psychological causes. These problems relate to FSD (female s*xual dysfunction). Before we go too far placing the blame totally on men, let’s consider this.

Ladies, in my defense: If ya'll were paying me more than minimum wage, I wouldn't always clock out so early! However, I happened to marry a Sistah, so she love the egg roll. Just don't ask her! Ha Ha

There are very few men who are passionate enough to care to do a good job. I feel if he's good at what he does and likes the female he will do what he does best.

Most (most) guys date as an investment to get the goods. Most women date for a free meal or hopes of a relationship. So most guys are hit it and quit it, don't care if they are doing the job.

Women fake too much and when they do, it makes the guy think he's done the job. A guy wont know how to please you if you dont tell him. If he dosent like what you say let him go. If he cares he'll try, but thats a two way street. Are you pleasing him as well. What plesed one dosent please us all.

In my opinion many women don't discuss in great detail what they like and don't like when they are intimate with their guy. Some guys are no better because they do the samething and not discuss what they like and don't like and they think banging on top of a woman for 20 minutes is a big deal. It would be nice for a woman to tell me exactly what she wants s*xually in detail, be confident about it and is creative in giving direction because a part of my enjoyment is seeing and hearing a woman that I'm pleasing. Also a woman that actively participates in the activities is more likely to be pleased because then things don't seem like a chore.

The man has to hit the mind & soul along with the body. Yes we do have some men that concentrate on the woman as a whole. I did meet one along the way. The main thing is to communicate and let them know. Never assume. Most men just want to be served and never the server

I think the reason why so many women are dissatisfied in the bedroom is that nine times out of ten, we are not speaking up and letting our men know what we enjoy. We expect them to just know. Don't be too shy to say what you want or what you want to try. You might be surprised and find that is just what he's been waiting for.