WHAT DOES EX REALLY MEAN???

Whoa...now that is crazy--spending the next day with the ex and his family...that is serious attachment asking for serious trouble. It may not be trouble for the moment, but as soon as something sour happens in her marriage "Who will she run to" he is right there...and within easy access. You have to be careful with the ex's...because you have a connection a past and feelings can easily creep back. I keep my ex's at a distance, we e-mail each other every once in a while to see how life is but that is the extent. It is okay to wish success for your ex, but you can't try and hold on to a close friendship like that.

I totally agree Danesha. I think she is looking for trouble and just might find it.

Yea, a little extreme, but I disagree a little bit. I was married for a long time, and I don't have a horror story or the feelings issue, but I think its kinda wrong that I don't make time to see my extended family. I mean if you have a relationship with them, some history, its kinda messed up that they get divorced too in the deal. What about step kids? If the relationship was genuine and not just dealing with them cause you're married, why does the contact stop? I'm probally a little more set than most people, and maybe more green, but if connection creep up is still an issue, why do people break up. Not just you, lots of people do. Why is that?

I can't really answer that. I've been married only once and still am after 16 years. I understand that there is a relationship that builds. I have been with my inlaws for 19 years. I would be greatly hurt if something should happen and my husband and I decide to get a divorce (although I rebuke that right now in the name of Jesus!). I would want to keep in contact with my in laws and would; however that contact would in no way flow over into the 'family gatherings'. I would keep phone contact and see my mother in law when it's just us around. I would not be stopping over to their home and making myself visible. That is an invasion of the 'future' or 'prospective' daughter in law.

Sure, you should see them, if that's your desire. But, the article was about ex's who keep in contact with their ex's family with hopes of keeping in contact with the ex.

Oh, ok. Gotcha

Most people do not realize that an ex is not an ex if still connected in spirit that only God can break, long story but many relationships falter because much has been brought along instead of left behind and multiply this by all the personalities in people.
Anyway, great post!