STANDARDS VS CRITERIA

IN WAKE OF RECENT CONVERSATIONS OVER THE

NET, I THINK IT SHOULD BE POINTED OUT THAT

WE'RE DOING OURSELVES IN BIGTIME. WE DO

THIS BY LETTING OUR CRITERIA BE THE

DECIDING FACTOR IN WHO WE CHOOSE TO LET

HAVE OUR HEART IN A REALTIONSHIP. THIS

BEING THE CASE, HOW MUCH IS OUR HEART

TRULY INVOLVED IN THE EQUATION? CRITERIA

IS SAYING THAT HE/SHE REALLY WON'T BE

CONSIDERED UNLESS THEY HAVE THIS AND

THAT AND EVERY OTHER NON-ESSENTIAL THING.

PRIME EXAMPLE, PASSING UP AN OTHERWISE

VERY ACCEPTABLE PERSON B/C SHE'S A VIRGIN,

OR B/C HE'S NOT ROLLING ON 22'S AND CAN'T

TREAT YOU EVERY WEEK. IT HAPPENS ALL THE

TIME. STANDARDS, ON THE OTHER HAND, ARE

MET BY THINGS THAT YOU CAN'T SEE. A PERSON

DRIVEN TO GET BETTER, RESPECTFUL,

PASSIONATE, SUPPORTFUL AND OF COURSE

LOVING ARE SOME THINGS THAT OUR CRITERIA

WON'T LET US EVEN GIVE A PERSON AN

OPPERTUNITY TO SHOW. WE ALREADY CROSSED

THEM OFF, AND IT'S NOT TILL THEY'RE IN A

RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WE KNOW VERY

WELL THAT WE THINK ABOUT WHAT WE MAY

HAVE MISSED OUT ON.


THINK ABOUT THE THINGS THAT MAKE A

RELATIONSHIP WORK, THAT'S THE GLUE.

IF YOU THOUGHT ABOUT IT AND YOU CAME UP

WITH HOW WELL THEY s*x, THE MONEY THEY

MAKE OR HOW MUCH OF A PUSHOVER THEY ARE

LET ME TELL YOU THAT GLUE WON'T BE STICKING

TOO WELL AND NEITHER WILL YOUR

RELATIONSHIP. THINGS LIKE THAT CAN BE

FOUND ANYWHERE, SO WHEN THE

RELATIONSHIP GET'S PUT TO THE TEST THE

GRADE WILL BE AN F B/C THEY OR YOU GOT THE

ANSWERS FROM SOMEONE ELSE.


BOTTOMLINE, JUST BE REAL AND KNOW THAT

CRITERIA IS A WANT THING. JUST THE SAME IT

CAN BE THROWN OUT THE WINDOW AND YOU

CAN STILL HAVE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP.

STANDARDS SHOULD NEVER BE DROPPED FOR

ANYONE. THINK OF IT LIKE THIS, IF YOU DROP

YOUR STANDARDS, YOU GET INTO A

RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU KNOW IS BAD FOR

YOU, B/C YOU FOUND SOMEONE WHO FIT YOUR

CRITERIA. IF YOU DROP YOUR CRITERIA YOU

GET IN A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE

WHO MEETS STANDARDS IN ALOT MORE BOOKS

THAN YOURS. YOU CHOOSE.