A Real Man VS A Real Woman
Surprise Surprise, it didn't take long for the members of this site to start howling about how they're either in search of a worthy significant other, or they're mourning over the shortage of 'em at the local HBCU. Be forreal. First off, ladies - we all know that men of color are not too big on higher education - so that eliminates MANY prospects from the pool. They tend to me more interested in living the unrealistic dreams of (1) hip hop music, (2) sports, or (3) a "fortune today-jail tomorrow" lifestyle. HBCU's, because of this, suffer in terms of female to male ratio, and then there goes a club of girls hunting each individual guy down, trying to get his attention in hopes that he'll be "their's". I'm all for a good relationship, but when did everyone start going to college to find love? Honestly, the most Im hoping for is to get a good one night stand without catching something from his ass! We need to stop hunting these men down as if they're prized horses, because in the end its you same ladies on here blogging about how a man did you wrong, turned you inside out, ruined your life, or knocked you off the ball and somehow you're trying to get the right advice to bounce back. Before you dig yourself into that hole, heres the advice ahead of time: DO "YOU" FIRST! Be so solid with yourself that you don't even NEED a man to complete your day. Be strong ladies, dont let sweet words, a pretty face, and some good rhythm ruining YOUR flow. A real man - one you do not have to struggle to find, a worthy keeper of your heart, someone you will not have to look twice at before turning your back - will come to you in due time. Keep your eyes open, but dont put every man on campus under a microscope to see which one could be your Prince Charming, because most likely - sooner or later - he will not add up!
Same for you men. You claim you are looking for a real woman, and all I can read/hear is a list of qualities and characteristics they have just got to have for you to date them: looks, goal oriented, funny, athletic, can cook, intelligence, dresscode, etc. Hold up - do YOU have ANY or ALL of the above qualities? Im tired of men wanting the pick of the litter but being nowhere close to it themselves! If you wanted a REAL woman, you'd realize that she will most likely not have all the above qualities, and somehow even though she does not, you still love her. You'd realize that being REAL means not having it ALL, not being PERFECT, coming with a DIFFERENT PACKAGE than is the norm. Are YOU real? Besides, alot of you men (and just as many of you ladies) overlook someone that could treat you right because they aren't pretty enough or they just dont have what it takes to hold your hand in public. Its good and dandy to have standards, but when your standard is a portrait of beautiful perfection in the bed and out, then you're in for a surprise - and if you are not the same or more than what you are asking for, how do you expect to attain it?
Same for you men. You claim you are looking for a real woman, and all I can read/hear is a list of qualities and characteristics they have just got to have for you to date them: looks, goal oriented, funny, athletic, can cook, intelligence, dresscode, etc. Hold up - do YOU have ANY or ALL of the above qualities? Im tired of men wanting the pick of the litter but being nowhere close to it themselves! If you wanted a REAL woman, you'd realize that she will most likely not have all the above qualities, and somehow even though she does not, you still love her. You'd realize that being REAL means not having it ALL, not being PERFECT, coming with a DIFFERENT PACKAGE than is the norm. Are YOU real? Besides, alot of you men (and just as many of you ladies) overlook someone that could treat you right because they aren't pretty enough or they just dont have what it takes to hold your hand in public. Its good and dandy to have standards, but when your standard is a portrait of beautiful perfection in the bed and out, then you're in for a surprise - and if you are not the same or more than what you are asking for, how do you expect to attain it?
This is a true and accurate statement about today's men and women. I am one of the few African American men that plan to attain riches through higher education. I am also an upcoming college freshman. I will be attending Tennessee State Univ. I have realized that those other lifestyle are not a guarantee. This passage is beautiful because not to many people look at things on this perspective because both men and women are blinded from reality. I enjoyed this message and wish u the best of luck in your future