Ladies, what r u thinking!!
I know a girl who is 15 years old and has just had her second child. I understand that she messed up once, but you would think she would have learned from the first time she got pregnant. Even worse, her baby's daddy is 21! Can we say statutory rape? But wait, worse goes to worst. He doesn't work and is living with her family! I just recently learned that he left her to go to junior college in Kansas. She says she's waiting for him to come home for Christmas break! What's going on in her head? Sadly, these type of stories are becoming more and more popular. Ladies, take care of yourselves! Don't depend on your man to take care of you. Demand for him to use protection, if he refuses, he doesn't really care about you! And if you've "accidently" gotten pregnant once, go get on birth control, learn from your mistakes. If you've gotten pregnant once by a man who isn't taking care of his first baby, why would you let him get you pregnant again? So many women have to give up their dreams, drop out of school, and go from being a teenager to a mother when they're still just a child themselves. My sisters, don't let this type of thing happen to you.
One of the things that has to happen is communication. I am 37 and when I was 19 I got pregnant with my daughter. I finally finished college, but it was not an easy task. I have vowed to talk to my daughters and any other young girls in my path to let them know that they must make "good choices". They must think things all the way through. We have to be honest with our children. If they think that you are just preaching to them and they don't know that you have gone through things then they won't listen. Let them know of your 'storms' or tragedies and tell them why you KNOW that it's best that they don't take certain paths. Jeremy talked about the abuse. It is rampant. It is horrible, some of the things these young girls have to go through. We have to develop a passion for actually raising our kids and stop letting them raise themselves. We need tougher penalties for parents that put their children in harms way. This mother who allowed a man to live in her house with her 15 year old daughter... What is that if it's not child endangerment? I don't know. I often cry about the plight of parents. It is a difficult one and I pray every day and every night for strength and wisdom needed to raise my children.
Mama Mo