Must be something in the water?
The new rage in Milwaukee seems to be for two people to meet, seem to be very compatible, become emotionally attached to each other, and yet leave their relationship open or "undefined" as to still be able to do as they please with whomever. For some people this type of relationship works. However, those are usually people who have mutually agreed to this.
The problem I am seeing repeatedly is that one person in the situation blindly; meaning She is only seeing He, She is emotionally attached, and She is under the impression that He is in this to see where things could go. As things do indeed go well He and She will become Us, and no one else will be betwixt that. He,. on the other hand, is developing an emotional attachment, and while His and Her actions are exact to those of two people in a committed relationship, they are not "committed verbally” and therefore allows Him to be free to do as he chooses with whomever.
Now, I will state for the record: He is right. He is free to do as he pleases. They are NOT committed. But, by not ensuring that She is aware of the "openness" and not letting her know that he is not intending on making a commitment down the road, despite the two being compatible, he leaves the door wide open to break her heart, tear her down, and make her less open to the next relationship.
My question really is this: If you meet someone that it seems like you could be good with and for and all that other mushy stuff, why would you want to continue to date other people? Why wouldn't you want to really see where things could go? Why would you continue to string along someone that you know would like to be in a relationship, when you know those aren't you intentions?
As I can't begin to answer that myself, I'm just gonna leave that just like that...wide open. If anyone has the beginnings of an answer, please see me immediately. As "not just the president of the club, but also a member", I'm gonna speak on behalf of all of us when I say this, "you people are gonna mess around and destroy the hearts of many others; and when the time comes that you are indeed ready to settle down, you are gonna have to deal with the emotional baggage that another person has created by doing the exact same thing you did to another person" . Whatever that special ingredient is in that water is gonna get ya’ll messed up one of these days. Hopefully, ya’ll wise up before that day comes.
The problem I am seeing repeatedly is that one person in the situation blindly; meaning She is only seeing He, She is emotionally attached, and She is under the impression that He is in this to see where things could go. As things do indeed go well He and She will become Us, and no one else will be betwixt that. He,. on the other hand, is developing an emotional attachment, and while His and Her actions are exact to those of two people in a committed relationship, they are not "committed verbally” and therefore allows Him to be free to do as he chooses with whomever.
Now, I will state for the record: He is right. He is free to do as he pleases. They are NOT committed. But, by not ensuring that She is aware of the "openness" and not letting her know that he is not intending on making a commitment down the road, despite the two being compatible, he leaves the door wide open to break her heart, tear her down, and make her less open to the next relationship.
My question really is this: If you meet someone that it seems like you could be good with and for and all that other mushy stuff, why would you want to continue to date other people? Why wouldn't you want to really see where things could go? Why would you continue to string along someone that you know would like to be in a relationship, when you know those aren't you intentions?
As I can't begin to answer that myself, I'm just gonna leave that just like that...wide open. If anyone has the beginnings of an answer, please see me immediately. As "not just the president of the club, but also a member", I'm gonna speak on behalf of all of us when I say this, "you people are gonna mess around and destroy the hearts of many others; and when the time comes that you are indeed ready to settle down, you are gonna have to deal with the emotional baggage that another person has created by doing the exact same thing you did to another person" . Whatever that special ingredient is in that water is gonna get ya’ll messed up one of these days. Hopefully, ya’ll wise up before that day comes.
