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The "Perfect" Mate (211 hits)

One of my favorite movies would have to be the Best Man. I remember how Morris Chestnut's character was very proud of his fiancee because he thought that she was perfect woman because he thought that she had only been with him and noone else. Now if we all remember for those of us who saw the movie.......He was a star football player who had pretty much banged anything in a skirt because he could and would always end up in trouble with his fiancee..then girlfriend because she would find out about his s*xual activities with other women. However his fiancee was not perfect and had in fact slept with the best man when they were in college to get back at her cheating boyfriend and when he found out he acted like a raging lunatic....although he had slept with many women throughout their relationship. Of course he took his fiancee as his wife and they lived happily ever after...but how many of us expect the same thing. Yes GOD has ordained someone out there for each and every one of us, but I wonder how many of the divorcees out there have probably blocked the people that were ordained to be in the position of your former spouse. When we go into relationships, I also think that we expect a person to be one way and do not realize that no one is perfect. For instance, when Halle Berry found out that Eric Benet was a s*x addict and how many women he had been with..she rolled. Now I understand that it was hard for her to accept what he had done, I would have but at the same time...He is not perfect and I am not sure that she went into the relationship with that frame of mind....now I know that I probably would not have been able to handle that particular situation, but we honestly need to reevaluate our definition of perfection. I am almost certain that most of us have not been the perfect mate in any relationship be it a parent/child, brother/sister, friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend or even husband/wife. Yes it is good to have high expectations and set high standards for a relationship, but we should go into any situation realizing that all have fallen and come short of the glory of God......think about it.

Posted By: VICSKEYAS MOORE
Friday, March 31st 2006 at 11:23AM
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Nicely put. Relationships are hard to maintain. They are also hard to get out of if they are not healthy. People should take the time to get to know who they are involved with. But honestly, how many of us do? I say get in a relationship with your self first and know who you are and what you like and want. Then you will know what you like and want from the other person. Take heed. Life is to short to spend it in a relationship that has no future. Love is blind and it will take over your mind if you let it.
Friday, March 31st 2006 at 11:47AM
Carolyn Newton

FIRST LET ME SAY, THAT INITIALLY, I HAD WROTE ABOUT THE BLACK FEMALE RAPED AT NCCU IN DURHAM. HOWEVER, POLITICAL PRESSURE WAS HAD, AND MY BLOG DISAPPREARED OFF THE BLOG HOME PAGE WHERE THIS BLOG IS. THE FUNNY THING IS THAT ESPN, NBC, ABC, CBS, CABLE, AND SATELLITE ARE RUNNING THE STORY, BUT I WAS FORBIDDEN TO OFFER AND EDITORIAL ON IT..I DID GET UPWARDS OF 50S HITS IN AN HOUR AND PROBABLY WOULD HAVE RECIEVED A THOUSAND...BUT OH WELL...

NOW THE PERFECT MATE WOULD ALLOW YOU TO VOICE YOU OPINION IN A RESPECTFUL ESPECIALLY IF IT WAS COGENT AND SALIENT AND INFORMATIVE.

DWIGHT
P.S. I SEE ALL THIS TIME YOU NEVER RESPONDED TO MY BLOG ON THE BLACK FEMALE RAPED AT NCCU IN DURHAM THAT I HAD WROTE ..DECRYING HOW BLACK MEN ARE CALLED ANIMALS FOR RAPE AND AN ENTIRE LACROSS TEAM AT DUKE COULD RAPE A BLACK FEMALE STUDENT AT NCCU WHO WAS A STRIPPER...

I WOULD RATHER FOR MY ALMA MATTER TO HAVE EMAILED ME AND ASKED ME NOT TO WRITE-I WOULD HAVE RESPECTED IT MORE, OR EVEN HBCU CONNECT TO SAY, DWIGHT COULD YOU HOLD OFF ON THIS ONE FOR US...I WOULD HAVE CONCEDED, BUT NO ONE EVEN ASKED ME LIKE YOU ARE ASKING US TO WRITE ON THE PERFECT MATE. TO ITERATE-A PERFECT MATE 'LISTENS 'AND TRIES TO MAKE A CONVINCING ARGUMENT

DWIGHT
Friday, March 31st 2006 at 2:57PM
B. Dwight Foster, B.A., MS-MANAGEMENT

Love covers a multitude of wounds and there is common sense as well.
Somewhere Halle respectfully is punishing herself, every relationship she has been in has been abusive.
I am not implying I care not.
She is too beautiful and fine, something ain't right...
I have heard and had much dialogue.

People need to realize we have to have spiritual to cross the inherent gaps in physical but there are reasons God made Estrogen and Testosterone.
As much as I may think I know, sometimes Women, I just don't get it.....
That is where the love covers and I have to let God...
Great blog Sis.
Of course I can say much more here but I have to get to the Barbershop.

Friday, March 31st 2006 at 2:59PM
WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III