Hello All,
It is 7:25 AM and I was just reflecting on something that happened over the last couple of days to me. I had a friend who is married. He and his wife have both been unfaithful to one another, but most importantly he was trying to get at me. I found myself at first getting sucked in to his drama-filled world and then I had to look at the situation as a whole. Another one of friends had also been his friend for a number of years and she had to stop because his wife was calling and harrassing her as she did me and the situation became to tough for her to deal with. I however, being the good friend that I strive to be with any of my friends, decided to stick around for a moment longer. He spoke with me often about his relationship with his wife seeking advice and I always kept it real with him and told him that if he wanted to be there, then he needed to be there for his wife and children, but that if he felt like it was too much for him to handle, that it was unfair to his wife and his children to stay in a miserable situation and that it was important to strive for happiness. He called me almost everyday with a different episode of the 'Days of Our Lives' and I was there to encourage him. Last week he reminded me of his birthday which was this past Monday and asked me what I was getting him(jokingly) and I told him the best that I could do for him was a card. So on Monday, I sent an e-card and an email to let him know that I am concerned about him and that I will always be there for him as a friend. I recently found out that his wife has been cheating on him with one of my co-workers. I never repeated this information to him because I was not sure how true it was, but not only that I did not want to cause him any more pain than he was going through already. I am also a firm believer that what is done in the dark is bound to come out in the light. At any rate, Tuesday I gave him a call and he didn't answer, so I left him a message. Shortly after that I sent him a text message telling him happy birthday and happy valentine's day and that I was just checking on him to see how he was doing. His wife replied "Stop calling my husband....call your boyfriend". I was shocked. I replied " Since you are so insecure I will stop calling your husband, but that I was only trying to wish my FRIEND a belated Happy Birthday and to see how he was doing. She emailed me three times the next day, telling me that I had made plans with her husband for a future and that she knew what I was up to and I returned the emails telling her that there was no way I was trying to get at her husband, I also told her that she needed to stop emailing me, because I had already agreed to never call him again. I did not understand where all of this was coming from. In her last email, she stated that he had told her that I was stalking him on his job and that I would not stop calling him and that I was inviting him on my job to eat lunch with me and that he let her read emails that I had sent him......which did not say that I wanted to be with him, but were encouraging words so that he could keep his head up. This was all so interesting to me......I mean I am a single parent working, in school, in a band and working on a career in music, there was no way that I had the time to do all of these things that he accussed me of. I immeadiately began to cry as I was pissed off and at that point there was nothing I could do about it. I calmed down and prayed. After talking to one of my good friends, who told me it was probably better this way, I got a message from God. It was a lesson that I had learned in college about unnecessary baggage. He told me things happen for a reason and that friendship was toxic. He also reminded me of one of my New Year's Resolutions, which was for me to get rid of all unhealthy baggage in my life. He then told me I needed to allow HIM to work things out instead of trying to work things out on my own. I felt renewed. I think we spend so much time trying to get those desires of our hearts and trying to work out those things on our own until we lose focus and forget that God can only fight your battles. We should continue to pray for guidance and understanding and stop trying to look for the answers ourselves. Also all unhealthy situations in your life should be eradicated. This is the only way that your life can be prosporous(I don't think I spelled this correctly).
Posted By: VICSKEYAS MOORE
Thursday, February 16th 2006 at 10:17AM
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