Is It Time To Let Go?
Ok, I need as much advice as I can get, so please, anyone who cares enough to respond, please do. My boyfriend and I have been together since June. There are a few things that I wanted to change about our relationship, but overall we were ok. He likes to stay and just chill in the house with me, but I like to go out sometimes. He works a lot and sometimes we'll have a short conversation on the phone, then he'll tell me he'll call me back, but instead he falls asleep and forgets to call me back. I mean, he has some faults, but everyone does. So he came to see me last wenesday and were watching tv together. He was with me for about an hour, then his brother called asking him from a ride from work. I was leaving soon for school so he promised me that he would see me again before I left. We agreeded that he would come over on Saturday, even help me pack. I called him Saturday around 3, but he didn't answer. I didn't leave him a message because I knew he would see my name on the missed call list. I called him again around 7, that's when everything fell apart.
I asked him if he was still coming over to see me. He told me that he thought he was coming to see me earlier that day, so when he didn't talk to me, he thought I had changed my mind. So he told me he didn't feel like driving to see me. That just added to all the things that I was already upset about. So i told him that we needed to talk face to face asap b4 I left. I told him that it was very important and it couldn't wait. He told me to just tell him on the phone. So after he told me that he definetly wasn't coming to see me, I told him. It turned into a huge argument with me crying and him yelling. Everytime I try to tell him something is bothering me, it shouldn't turn into an argument. I left on Monday and he didn't call to tell me bye or wish me a safe flight. I've never been so upset b4 in my life. Despite our fight, I still have feelings for him; you don't just get over people that easily. I didn't think I was wrong for wanting to talk to him, be he told me I had no reason to be mad. Is it time to let go of this relationship?
I asked him if he was still coming over to see me. He told me that he thought he was coming to see me earlier that day, so when he didn't talk to me, he thought I had changed my mind. So he told me he didn't feel like driving to see me. That just added to all the things that I was already upset about. So i told him that we needed to talk face to face asap b4 I left. I told him that it was very important and it couldn't wait. He told me to just tell him on the phone. So after he told me that he definetly wasn't coming to see me, I told him. It turned into a huge argument with me crying and him yelling. Everytime I try to tell him something is bothering me, it shouldn't turn into an argument. I left on Monday and he didn't call to tell me bye or wish me a safe flight. I've never been so upset b4 in my life. Despite our fight, I still have feelings for him; you don't just get over people that easily. I didn't think I was wrong for wanting to talk to him, be he told me I had no reason to be mad. Is it time to let go of this relationship?
personally i feel like you shouldn't even ask anyone else what you should do....cuz the best advice i can give is tell you to pray about it. i mean...you care about him STILL for some reason and perhaps you just want to know what others think....prob wit that is you shouldn't care what others think. i mean....in all honesty you are only giving your point of view and obviously there is still his side...and the truth to consider. i think you should think about what you learned from the relationship...bc there are all sorts of ideas in my head and i feel it would not be fair to taint your head wit any more thoughts than necessary! so...rather than bein so frustrated over something that 9 outta 10 was a misunderstanding....talk to him. i mean...the worst that may happen is yo uwont get any feedback and hey....yo ucant assume JUST CUZ YOU ARE READY TO TALK....he is....you know??? hope this DIFFERENT outlook on your situation helps for the most positive decision!