One of my Hbcuconnect friends asked me to write a blog on mother/daughter relationships....so this blog is dedicated to you.
Mothers and daughters are special creatures. It is interesting because I am a mother and a daughter and I find it hard to relate to my mother most of the time. Our relationship is like many mother/daughter relationships, close but not as close as either of us think. Sometimes we confide in one another and somethings we keep to ourselves. And yes we have disagreements and sometimes we agree. There are somethings that I said I would not do as a parent that I find myself doing and things that I said I would that I haven't done. For the most part my mother has set an example for me and I have learned from her mistakes as well as her accomplishments. Now that I am an adult it is hard for my mother at times to accept that I have my decisions to make and sometimes they may be foolish, but that I must learn just as she has. I think the most amazing thing about my mother is that she grew up without her mother. My mother was six months old when her mother passed and the environment that she grew up in was not one that any parent would use as an example for parenthood. Nevertheless, my mother was still able to teach my brother, sister and I values, morals and integrity. Through prayer she was able guide us so that we would be able to make sound judgements and decisions in life. I know that there are many women out there who are suffering because they do not have a male-figure in their lives, but many women are suffering because the relationship with their mother isn't good. Many parents want to know all of the intimate details of our lives but are not willing to share on the same level. I find that many of the older women come from a time period of 'don't ask, don't tell' and a lot of the different situations that took place back in the day, was not really discussed because at that time it was considered taboo. I think that it is important for us to set examples for our children, but we must be real. I say this to say....that no matter what the mistake, if you have overcome a particular situation that mistake should be a testimony and not something to be ashamed of. Young people do not feel that parents understand because, parents try to sweep their past under the rug and then when it comes out that 'your momma used to smoke weed' or ''your momma slept around' , they don't understand why their children aren't receptive to the advice given. Mothers should try to open up to their daughters. I think that is the start to having a healthy mother/daughter relationship.
Be blessed
Vicskeyas
Posted By: VICSKEYAS MOORE
Monday, April 24th 2006 at 10:23AM
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