If you all remember a past blog that I posted called "Getting Rid of Unhealthy Baggage"...this situation stems from that.
Forgiveness has been a big issue that I have had to deal with for sometime. Going through the many situations that I have, it has been very hard for me to open up to people that have hurt me in the past. Yet on yesterday, I had a friend to apologize to me for something very hurtful that they did. I accepted their apology, but they also asked if they could be a part of my life once again. Now before I go any further...this person told their wife that I was trying to get with him which was not true. He had me in the midst of his problems, which I thought was very unfair to both me and his wife. Instead of taking responsibility for his problems in his marriage, he placed the blame on me. It really hurt me because whenever he asked me for advice, I told him to stay and be supportive of his wife and his family. Now he did try to get wrong a couple of times, but I was still his friend. After the accusations....I made it clear that I could not be his friend anymore, not only because of the accusations that he made, but because those accusations caused mistrust in his home. Which means, his wife(who has never met me, but has spoken to me on the phone) does not like me at all. Mind you, I am not blameless.....I should have ended this friendship when things began to get rough, but instead I tried to be there as a friend and ended up stabbed in the back. Well, back to yesterday.....I got an email from this young man that basically said he wanted to be my friend again and that he really missed me and that he was sorry. He stated that I really encouraged him and inspired him to be a better person. He also said that he had gotten back in the church. I was proud of that, but I still told him that we still could not be friends because of the trust that I had lost and the lack there of from his wife's end. I told him if he wants his marriage to work, he needed to honor his wife and if she did not wish us to be friends then that was the way things had to be. I obviously do not want to be pulled into their fiasco again; however am I wrong to deny him another chance at friendship?
Posted By: VICSKEYAS MOORE
Friday, April 21st 2006 at 9:27AM
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