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Proverbs 18:24
"A Man/Woman That Hath Friends Must Show Himself/Herself Friendly: And There Is a Friend That Stcketh Closer Than A Brother".

I was listening to the T.D. Jakes CD "Dealing With The Unexpected. T.D. talked about Tares.
I looked that word up for further meaning in my Bible Dictionary, in short tares are poisonous weeds that grows with the good crop but are picked out during harvest...

One deep part that I listened to several times on that same CD was You deal with You probably are (paraphrasing).
TD states if you have no friends, you are not a friendly person, you are rough and abrasive. Well a person may think they are friendly but to everyone else...

If you feel no one understands you, you probably do not take the time to understand other people and have low tolerance for them.

If you are lonely, well.... You do not take up time with other people.

Anyway I found this deep. Please this is a general message that I had been planning to blog on. I always start with myself 1st instead of blaming everyone else. Works for me, but a old saying of mine is that I can tell you to run 5miles but 1 mile works for you.

I do add that from my observances, counseling with people, I have heard those comments many times before about what T.D. speaks and usually I am close enough therapeutically with the person and they are open enough for help to be more aware.
We have all been hurt, angry etc. At times I pushed people away or may not have been the best person to be around except for those closest to me that know how to crack me up.
I pushed peole away for years with the facade of playing around and partying. We all have our things. When I decided to break forth from that shell, I still had things to learn about people. I read a chapter of Proverbs daily along with other readings and I still bump my head at times and have to go back to the drawing board. The difference is that I not hurt someone on purpose.
In well-meaning there is a young brutha here that had a deep blog. I blasted it. He sent me a very kind email. I reread my words, tail between my legs, apologized, changed the wordings of my blog comments and commended him for being a better and mature man than I in that circumstance. Luckily he knew where I was coming from in being too strong convictions wise. Moderation and time for all things.
We are cool to this moment and I respect him. Different strokes for different folks, I probably would have gotten cursed out by someone else.
I was still in the wrong.
I relate to TD when he states coincidentally that at times he has to wait before he responds to emails because as to how he is feeling, he may respond in the worst ways.
Lastly from my experiences which of course are not everyones experiences, most people on my case load and from what I have seen in my few years of life improved in their relations, those who did not were because they knew it all and could not be told a thing... So they stay as miserable as those who state they are by themselves for Anniversaries, B-Days, Holidays etc... But "Every Good Gift and Every Perfect Gift Is From Above, And Cometh Down From The "Father" Of Lights, With "Whom" Is No Variableness(Variation) Neither Shadow Of Turning". James 1:17.

Have you ever dealt with a person that claims to be in some type of need and when you try to be kind get your head blown off and then you are perplexed as to the person says they are in need? Fellas, you ever open a door for a female and get told off? Ladies ever been nice to a male and he acts like his butt is on his shoulders? Anyone ever stated happy B-Day to anyone and they don't even say thank you?
I can go on and on. I have been on both sides of my comments by the way...
Just being real and honest.
But I implied I was not happy but covered with denial until certain moments when I wanted which is selfish? Ironic is it not?

Many people lack in what they are not and blind themselves with their own minds. Been there done that, but hey I don't know nuthin.
By the way, all knowledge comes from "God".

Some folk are too edumicated as those Pharasees and Sadducees...

Jus my 2cents worth.
Blessings
Sincerely
William

Posted By: WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III
Monday, December 5th 2005 at 8:31PM
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Amen to that, also people should know its okay to be by yourself sometimes. Being around people often can drain your energy. You need time to reflect and relax. Also God will bring you the people who he wants you to befriend. Remember true firends accept you for who you are because they know that no one is perfect. For those in college, some are blessed to find true friendships. Just be careful, remember, even though you know a person in college for four years doesn't mean you truly know them at all. There were people who were married for 20 years and more who still don't know each other. It all comes down to your relationship with God and yourself. God Bless.
Monday, December 5th 2005 at 9:58PM
Candice Johnson

I peeped the message you posted and you are absolutely correct in what you are saying. It is refreshing when we can examine ourselves and fess up to the wrong we've been in. My tongur has always been my problem. Somehow, the very thing that is our gift, which again is my speech, seems to get distorted and manipulated by the devil. We use our God-given gifts for evil (hurt,wrong, injury.)

Satan is not able to create gifts. Nor create anything, for that matter. He counterfeits everything, including church, pastors, prophets, dreams, hope, gain.

I encourage everyone, including you and myself, to stay focused on the promise that God has given us individually. He promised to bless Euphonetiks, the hip hop crew I am a part of. And thus I hold to that promise. He promised you all something also. And God is faithful. Remain in Christ. Know that, despite what self-righteous religious folk tell you, the Bible says "If you confess your sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us, and will cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Do not deny when you sin. Admit it. Confess it, and turn from it. God will help you.

Put your faith in God. People tend their faith in faith. Sounds silly but its true. But pur your work in the finished work of Jesus Christ at the cross and he will lead and guide you in everything. He is a friend. Jesus was not religious. He was righteous. Big difference. Religion is a systematic process or set of rules and traditions by which one justifies self. Righteousness is believing God and abiding in him, and acknowledging that HE alone justifies.

"The religion that God accepts as pure and faultless is to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep onesself from being polluted by the world." James 1:27

Church won't save you. Pastor can't save you. Religion can't save you. Works...nope...can't save you. Faith in Christ saves you. Love identifies you. Go to church to fellowship, worship, and learn. Respect and honor a Christ-following pastor. Let LOVE be your only religion. And let your works be done because of the love you've received from God, that it might bring others to him.

peace.

Holla back...anybody.

Love yall.

BJ

GRAAAAAAAAACE....soak it all up.

Wednesday, December 7th 2005 at 6:09PM
Branden Jones

Hey Candice, thank You for the added knowledge and rich ness You add to this blog.
I appreciate Sis.
Do You, Be You and keep up the good work.
Thursday, December 8th 2005 at 2:56PM
WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III

Sup atcha Branden.
Nice to make Your acquaintance dawg.
Deep what You write and add here.
I agree with what You write and make a note to myself.
Hope to see more of what You write bro.
Keep up the good work.
Peace.
Thursday, December 8th 2005 at 2:58PM
WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III