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Am i wrong for not saying happy father's day?

LaShonda Redd · Wednesday, June 22nd 2005 at 11:30AM · 154 views
Wassup people, For those who have a step father and your biological father, have ya'll been in this situation before, or something like it? Well fathers day just past and i been having some issues with my fathers. My biological father just started popping in my life again. He disappeared for a couple of years and now that i have graduated and im about to leave for college in august he is trying to jump back in my life which i have no problem with but my step father is another story. My biological father decided he was going to go to my graduation which was cool because he i had extra tickets. My step father heard my father was going to go and he decided he wasn't going to go because "it was hot" i got mad because when my biological father decided he wasn't going to do his part and my step father became my father there after period so i cussed him out because, i only graduate from high school once and he wanted to miss it because he wanted to be jealous of my father. I didn't wish my step father happy father's day because i was still mad at him for not going to my graduation. I just wonder was i wrong for not saying happy fathers day and not getting him something? I mean if it comes down to me being wrong im not afraid to say sorry, i like to be the bigger person. Am i wrong for not saying it though? My step father has missed every award ceremony i was in for the last 13 yrs i knew him and he feel no remorse for it at all. My Biological father has went to 3 of my award ceremonies and he just popped into my like not more than a month ago.

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Darryl D. Smith Wednesday, June 22nd 2005 at 12:41PM

Hmmm...I know the feeling as with stepmom/mother. I always tell my mom happy mother's day, but I could care less about the step mother. She rarely talks to me, so it's like she only acknowledges me because of my dad. I don't care though. I got the woman I need most in my life already.

But two wrongs don't make a right. You should've told him how you felt and still told him Happy Father's day. Father's Day comes once a year...and he is in your life more than your biological father...so...

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Monica Brown Wednesday, June 22nd 2005 at 1:50PM

Love them both despite their flaws, Baby Girl. You do need to tell him Happy Father's day. I have a father who is only that by name and a stepfather who has been there for me for nearly 30 years. My father is still my father and I called them both. I just don't want anything bad or mean on my heart regarding him. I wouldn't know what to do if that were the case and something happened to him.

I am a step parent and it is a hard job. I love my sons, but sometimes I feel like they think I'm in the way even though I've been with their father since they were babies. I don't want to ever show favor with my children and am always aware of them even though they don't live with us. Even with all of that, I know I'm not their mother and at times they remind me of that (not in a rude way) and it hurts. I have my own kids, but if I love my step sons, why can't they just love me for who I am, even if I'm not their biological mother?

Tell you step father Happy Father's Day, please.

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