Not really a Friend
I have a question. Has anyone out there ever had or has a friend they use to respect, was really a person that was high on your list for people who you could really relate to and had their life together then after a while that person doesn't "fit the bill" anymore? Im going through that right now. I use to think highly of one of my friends, I always thought she has her stuff together and nothing could break her. Well after she fell in love with my cousin and they started dating she turned into someone i dont really like being around or even looking into her eyes without disgust. I mean she use to be my sister and all but my cousin treats her like crap but yet she stays with him. I mean yeah you go through rough times but they go through it every night. I mean my cousin has a bad anger problem but to treat a female the way he does is just not acceptable. I told him about it and how he needs to change, hes not listening. Anyway they recently broke up to see if they could grow together or something like that but 2 days later without seeing any results she goes back to him and cuts me off. I mean during these 2 days she called me up everyday talking about do you want to go here or there and now that she's back with him she barely calls me at all!
I mean to ya'll it might seem like she just needed someone to talk but its not like that, she forgets who exactly are her friends when she is with him. I mean almost a yr ago i had to tell her about herself and its like a broken record she does it all over again. I mean the other people that we hang out has just learned to live with it and get over it but i just wonder am i going to far with it i mean i was there before my cousin why should i be second, i mean we cant compromise on it either because my cousin doesn't like her hanging with her friend either. I mean im not your anytime my cousin's not around friend, that the only time she calls me to do anything now. I would call her to do something but she's always busy, when i can look out side and see that shes just sitting outside my house waiting for my cousin to come home. Am i wrong for not wanting to put up with it again or should i just live with it like my other friends do?
Shonda
Im Out
I mean to ya'll it might seem like she just needed someone to talk but its not like that, she forgets who exactly are her friends when she is with him. I mean almost a yr ago i had to tell her about herself and its like a broken record she does it all over again. I mean the other people that we hang out has just learned to live with it and get over it but i just wonder am i going to far with it i mean i was there before my cousin why should i be second, i mean we cant compromise on it either because my cousin doesn't like her hanging with her friend either. I mean im not your anytime my cousin's not around friend, that the only time she calls me to do anything now. I would call her to do something but she's always busy, when i can look out side and see that shes just sitting outside my house waiting for my cousin to come home. Am i wrong for not wanting to put up with it again or should i just live with it like my other friends do?
Shonda
Im Out
Wow...she's really changed. I just went through that too. However, I found out it was for the best as I was able to move on and make other friends. No one will replace his friendship, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Have you sat down with her and talked to her? If not, call her and keep callin and have her to give you five minutes of her time. Hopefully, you will be able to patch up everything...