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A BUDDY... I Can't Handle them

camille c · Tuesday, January 23rd 2007 at 2:11PM · 285 views
How is that some males and females can enagage in s*xual activites... but lack an emotional connection to their partner?
Are their hearts stronger?
Are their hearts colder?
Are they just wiser?
I use to beleieve that random s*x was the thing... but random s*x always turned out to be not so random I found myself making my random partners, not so random and continual partners...
Can s*x ever be random are'nt people always doomed to catch feelings... for their partner
if not the first time surely all the times that are bound to follow?
When a man s*x.. When a woman has s*x don't they take a piece of each other?
are'nt they now connected to one another?
so why is that I feel so connected to you ?
and you seem so disconncected from me?
what have i done to deserve the title of BUDDY and not Girlfriend?
Am I un worthy or just simply the buddy type?
Are'nt I worth more than late night meetings between the sheets?how about dinner?or a little effort?
I can actualy read/write/speak quite profricently so why I am simply a buddy?
Can my title ever evole... but should'nt that happen as my feelings evole?
I guess Iam just boring
jut not your type
yet you seem so willing to call me a buddy but than again that requires zero effort

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Noah Crockett Tuesday, January 23rd 2007 at 8:51PM

A relationship is based on something other than s*x. Trust me. The longer you wait to sleep with the one you want to be with, the more you find out what they want from the other. The "buddy" thing is the "just incase I'm alone next weekend" title. Give yourself to someone that you like for them not just for how they look or dress. Dinner, movies, concerts, road trips, and other things come before the sheets fly. Camille, I've tried this and you will find out how a person is in the long run. Meaning "that thing that he does when he..." he will keep doing it. AND!!! I see your blog titles and I think its time to "Walk by faith, not by sight!!!!"

Joyce Brayboy Monday, January 29th 2007 at 12:07AM

s*x is not emotional like that for men. "You" are the buddy cause "you" compromisin', actin' like "you" want what he wants, when "you" really want more, but "you" settle for what he wants so "you" can get yours. You are not satisfied cause you can't get yours by compromising “you”.
If "you" really want to be more than buddy, then set the standard, and wait and see who can meet that standard to be worthy of "you". Don't drop the standard cause dude is fine. It doesn't matter if his s*xuality blows your mind.
s*x is a moment, but every time you indulge don't it feel like you didn't get yours. You had an orgasm maybe, let's be real, the love and the connection you didn't feel.
So now what? another quick fix? Why compromise "you"?
The confidence you were given as a girl is shot. Are you boring? Hardly not. You are compromising "you". You feel connected cause that's what women do, but it’s not worth compromising "you".
As worthy as you feel, you are… not based on a title, not based on a man, it's cause God made you and if you chose He can hold your hand -- even through the struggle of finding yourself, of dinner alone and even through withdrawal from no s*x. The choice is yours to live or die. Compromising “you” and soon the beauty of life will pass you by…

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