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SHOULD AGE MATTER FOR DATING...

Laura Williams · Sunday, November 19th 2006 at 9:55PM · 906 views
HEY YOU GUYS,
I HAVE ONE QUESTION I WAS THINKING ABOUT. WHEN IT COMES TO DATING, SHOULD AGE REALLY MATTER AS LONG AS THE MAN OR WOMAN IS OF AGE. OF AGE MEANING 18 OR 21. FOR INSTANCE, I HAVE A COUSIN WHO IS 20 DATING A 32. I TOLD HER IS HE LOOKING FOR ONE THING AND THAT HE IS ALREADY SETTLE DOWN TO MARRIAGE. GIVE ME, PLEASE, YOUR ADVICE.
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Candice Johnson Sunday, November 19th 2006 at 11:04PM

Pray about it. Is she really ready to settle down?

Nicholas Bouier Monday, November 20th 2006 at 1:19AM

I don't think age is a factor. Love is love, and it sees no color, age, or other forms of boundaries. If it is true, then that is all that matters...just my opinion however...

L D Horne Monday, November 20th 2006 at 10:05AM

Some say that your cousin’s man is looking for one thing: dat young ass because she’s firm, new and impressionable. Some say all he would want is that S-E-X. Some say your cousin may be looking for a sugar daddy or a father figure. But these ideas are not always true.

IMO Age is relative and does not necessarily play a role. Whether it is a “May-December” couple or couples in general, the maturity levels, intentions and expectations of the individuals involved are the vital factors.

Basically, I co-sign with Nicholas’ comment above about love.

Samm Wilkens Monday, November 20th 2006 at 11:22AM

Yes, age should matter, but it all depends on the person that you're talking to, and how mature/immature or relaxed they are in their life. You need to sit down with that person and ask them what they want out of that relationship. Age really doesn't matter, but when you're usually talking to an older person...they are probably going to be looking for a long term relationship. Even when everything is said and done, communication will be the factor in any relationship, no matter the age, race, or any other type of background difference. If this helped you out, let me know! Peace!!!

Joyce Brayboy Wednesday, November 22nd 2006 at 6:04PM

My experience is that at 20 she's still changing ALOT. He is (should be) a lot more settled. I don't think that's usurally a good combination. Either she grows to his specs instead of being allowed to mature freely or she grows to realize he may be mature to a 20 year old, but not nearly where he should be for a 30 something year old. At any rate, she is 20. She will make the decision and she will deal with the consequences. Advise her, support her, but don't push her away by playing the momma role.

phil marlow Thursday, May 24th 2007 at 8:16AM

Opinions, Opinions, when we ask for them we are setting ourselves up to be control by the morals of others. We are spiritual beings living in a body called a temple, therefore let one live from within as opposed to from without. The spirit within will remain with us for life and those outside for a short period. The final and only answer comes from you. Temporary happiness comes from without, permanent happiness comes from within. Do what you must for you not for me for I am just a supporter.
Peace, love, knowledge and understanding.

Kaliyah Smith Tuesday, July 31st 2007 at 11:39AM

if she isnt ready to settle down then tell her to leave him alone. he mite be lookin for wifey and she mite be jus trying to have sum fun. but if she thinks she is ready to become Joan Clever then let her!

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