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Sistas Let's Stop Hatin' On Each Other...

ashley r · Tuesday, July 18th 2006 at 7:22PM · 775 views

Ok...so I walk in and you see me. You see that my hair is done, my
outfit is fierce and I carry myself like a lady. I smile at you but you
roll your eyes at me, then, turn your head and whisper something to
your
girl. Why you hatin'?

Ok... so maybe I'm a new employee and this is my first day at work. I
almost thought I would be the only sista in the joint until someone
introduced us to each other. I smile and extend my hand, happy to know
I
won't be here alone. You smile and shake my hand but there's
insincerity
in your eyes and your hand is limp. You seem guarded. What's wrong
Ma'?

Ok ...so maybe my man and I have been having problems. And since you've
been my best friend for years I confide in you that I think he's
cheating on me. You offer your support. Until I find out that he's been
cheating on me....with you! Why would you hurt me like that? I found
your knife, girl.....it's in my back!

As women we battle daily. We battle keeping our families together,
keeping our men happy and maintaining our presence in the workforce.Â
With all that battling going on why in the world should we have to
battle each other?

Now I'm not saying every sistah has a knife...but some of you do....and
you know who you are. Why is it that a woman can't get her glamour on
without you having a problem? Why can't I get a blonde weave without
you
having something to say?

If I'm working myself to death in the office trying to climb the
corporate ladder...why am I suddenly a sellout?

If I leave the room for a minute why can't I trust you around my man?
Smiling in my face, but gossiping all my personal business behind my
back? You now have permission to consider yourself triflin'!

Inferiority Complex. It makes us feel that in order to be someone
special we have to put everyone else beneath us. Are we so insecure in
ourselves that we can't feel good until we pull someone else down?

There's something wrong here. We've come to envy those who've
accomplished in their lives what we've only dreamed of having for
ourselves. And when we fear we will never be able to get what we want -
we steal it.

There is a serious self-worth issue going on here. We're in a day and
age where we should be encouraging each other and holding each other
up.

Sisterhood should not end when Oprah goes off. Truth be told, there
will
always be someone prettier, s*xier, stronger, and smarter. I'm sorry
Boo
- that's just the way it is. But that's ok.....just do you!

I don't care how good Beyonce' looks - if she walks into the same room
I'm in, it doesn't make me any less of the diva I already am! I love
admiring hairstyles...but there's no need to be jealous. Honey,
nowadays
there's enough hair for err-body.

I have goals in life. There are things I strive to attain. Yet I seek
out successful sisters because they keep me motivated.

Life is so much more than who looks the best, who dresses the best and
who makes more money. So when you see your sister going for hers let it
inspire you ...To do YOU.

INSPIRE, MOTIVATE, AND CELEBRATE OUR SISTAHOOD!





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Comments (4)

Lindsey Reynolds Wednesday, July 19th 2006 at 10:06AM

AMEN!!!

M
Monica Brown Wednesday, July 19th 2006 at 1:29PM

That's very good. We have to teach our baby girls love for themselves and other women. One of my pet peeves is a young lady saying, "I don't get along with other females." Why not? I get along with and am good friends with several females. I am a female so why would I not seek out other females to relate to? That's a horrible statement that has found root and begun to grow. It is now out of control and needs to be cut.

Great Blog Baby Girl!!

Mama Mo

Jane L. Wilson Wednesday, July 19th 2006 at 4:49PM

I once read a quote a former co-worker passed along to me that stated, "The only time a woman should look down on another woman is when she's lending her a hand up."

Your blog reminded me so much of that and how some of us females have a difficult time accepting who we are as individuals.

Fabulous blog!

Peace

WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III Saturday, July 22nd 2006 at 12:12AM

What an awesome blog and from such a great base of knowledge and wisdom.
Great to see the exuding of initiative, something not always easy to do for may reasons.

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