"Love & Circumstance"
Reaching out for someone to hear me vent my frustration over a love gone wrong, I was asked of the listener for that time, "What do you plan to do about YOUR life now?
As I stumbled for words of response, I could only reach back and say that I just wanted to call the former (so-called) guy friend and tell him off.
In an expected response to my answer, the listener asked me, "Why? He's moved on, so what would be your point?
My answer, "There isn't a point." I was searching for someone to join my bitterness toward that former male pal, but I found instead an inner peace.
I chose to allow myself to be degraded, belittled, and humiliated by staying in an extremely dysfunctional relationship, and it was up to me to let go and begin the healing process. And, although I'd attempted several times before to move on, for some reason this time is different.
I, too, like many other females happily living on this earth, deserve to be happy in a relationship. So, I suppose, in reality, I was an enabler, insofar as I was empowering someone else to treat me in an un-Godly manner and I was being pulled deeper and deeper into the quick-sand.
Anyway, I am working on forgiveness, but this time forgiving means truly letting go.
Jane L. Wilson
As I stumbled for words of response, I could only reach back and say that I just wanted to call the former (so-called) guy friend and tell him off.
In an expected response to my answer, the listener asked me, "Why? He's moved on, so what would be your point?
My answer, "There isn't a point." I was searching for someone to join my bitterness toward that former male pal, but I found instead an inner peace.
I chose to allow myself to be degraded, belittled, and humiliated by staying in an extremely dysfunctional relationship, and it was up to me to let go and begin the healing process. And, although I'd attempted several times before to move on, for some reason this time is different.
I, too, like many other females happily living on this earth, deserve to be happy in a relationship. So, I suppose, in reality, I was an enabler, insofar as I was empowering someone else to treat me in an un-Godly manner and I was being pulled deeper and deeper into the quick-sand.
Anyway, I am working on forgiveness, but this time forgiving means truly letting go.
Jane L. Wilson
Forgiving does mean letting go, but who are you forgiving? You need to forgive yourself first and then try to move on. And don't do it b/c you want to show him that you have moved on, do it for YOU!