The 8 types of cheaters

First of all, there is no one reason why men cheat. If you ask 20 different guys why they cheat, you'll get 20 different reasons. Every man (just like every woman) has the potential to cheat, but generally we can break it down to eight types of cheaters. And these guys are the most common perpetrators of infidelity in committed relationships. You might recognize your man -- hopefully not.


1. The Rebellious Child Cheater


This cheater is the guy who is constantly getting into a mother-child relationship with women. This brotha feels powerless, because his woman is the dominant one in the relationship. He has a lot of internal conflicts, because he wants to be looked at as a man, but he's afraid to leave the comfort zone of a mother figure.

He's afraid of the responsibilities of manhood, so he regresses into the role of a child. He will often engage in childlike activities like excessive video game playing or bragging about the new sneakers he is going to get.

So a woman might be dating a guy who is 28 years old, but he has the thought processes and reasoning of a 15-year-old. And this frustrates a lot of women. When someone has the biological appearance of an adult, it's only natural for you to deal with them on an adult level. But in the mind of a guy like this, he is still a child. And just like you don't expect mature, responsible behavior from a 15-year-old, you shouldn't expect any mature, responsible rational behavior from a grown man with a childlike demeanor.

Whenever this brotha is challenged or his powerlessness is acknowledged in some way by his woman, instead of trying to communicate and express himself like a rational adult, he does what many children do in these situations: He rebels.

This guy takes on the "I can do what I want to do" mentality, and he sneaks off and has s*xual relations with other women. He does this strictly as an act of defiance. It is his way of indirectly showing his main woman that he cannot be controlled 100 percent.





2. The Delayed Player Cheater


When you don't complete something, you will want to finish it at some point in your life. And most men in our society have to go through their player stage. Some men get their player stage over with early in life, some guys go through it much later.

The delayed player is the guy who didn't get to go through his player stage during his teens and twenties, because he got married at a young age.

When he was young, he was so happy that a female gave him some play, he went on and tied the knot with her right away. Now that he's older, more established, and more financially stable, he is getting the kind of play from other women that he didn't get when he was younger.

So now he wants to go through his player stage, and get a taste of some of the other females that are out there on the market. But he still sincerely loves his wife and he doesn't want to leave her. This is also referred to as a midlife crisis.

These middle-aged guys will start purchasing fancy cars that they wished they had as a teenager. They start dressing in fly clothes they couldn't afford as a teen. And they start trying to have s*xual relations with different females, which is also something they wish they could have done when they were teenagers.



3. The Playing-with-Fire Cheater


This type of brotha is motivated by the possibility of getting caught cheating. He is s*xually turned on by the thrill and the danger of his acts of infidelity. This guy will cheat with his woman's sister or his wife's best friend.

He will have s*x with other females in the same bed he and his wife or girlfriend sleep in. He will have s*x with other women in his woman's car. The playing-with-fire cheater is usually a laid-back type of guy, who is extremely turned on by the fact that he is doing something naughty or devious.

He wishes he could be more adventurous in other aspects of his life, but he's not. So the only way he feels that he can get his thrills in life is to sneak around with other women, and toy with the possibility of getting found out.


4. The Free Agent Cheater



In sports, a free agent is an athlete who isn't under a specific contract, who can go to any team that chooses him. He can also go from playing baseball to playing football or any other sport he chooses. The free agent cheater is a guy who is in a marriage or committed relationship, but in his mind he is still a free agent. The marriage contract means absolutely nothing to him. It's just a piece of paper he signed to shut his main lady up.

The free agent cheater parades his other relationships out in the open as if he were still single. And he has absolutely no remorse in doing this, because in his mind he isn't doing anything wrong.


5. The Cheaper-to-Keep-Her Cheater


This type of guy is in a relationship or marriage that he knows has run out of gas. The relationship lost its sparks a long time ago, and he genuinely wants to end it so he and his significant other can go their separate ways. But he also knows that if he's the one who breaks the relationship off, his woman and her lawyers will take him to the cleaners.

He knows that officially ending his relationship and getting back in the dating scene means that he must lose his house, half his wages, and possibly his automobile. Starting a new life means he would probably have to dramatically downgrade his standard of living. And he knows getting some new poon-tang isn't worth living in the projects for.

So he keeps the wife around under the pretense of having a "business arrangement." And he gets back into the dating scene with no remorse, because to him, his marriage is technically over anyway.




6. The Coochie Conquering Cheater


The only reason this type of guy gets into committed relationships is because he thinks it's the only way he can get a woman to have s*x with him. He is intrigued by the thrill of the hunting process and of getting a s*xual commitment from a woman. Once a woman finally gives in, he is no longer interested. He has conquered her coochie, and he is ready to move on.

But this guy has made so many commitments, and gone to such extravagant lengths in order to get the coochie, that now that he has finally gotten his payoff, he finds that he can't just jet out so quickly.

The coochie conqueror is a master deceiver and he will sell a dream to a woman with a straight face -- all for the poon-tang. Then he will go on to other conquests, and still date his main woman, until he comes up with another lie or scheme to wiggle his way out of the relationship.




7. The Deflecting Guilt Cheater



This type of guy is in a relationship or marriage that he feels isn't bad enough to break off, but it isn't good enough to stay in either. And if he were to break the relationship off, he would feel a tremendous sense of guilt. So he becomes blatant with his cheating, in hopes that his main lady will find out, and decide to break up with him.

Another type of guilt deflecting cheater is a guy who has a decent woman at home, but he wants to get some extra poon on the side anyway. He feels guilty about his desires, so he will find any little thing about his woman that he can nitpick or complain about. He does this because he is looking for justification to go out and cheat. And if he can find some little thing that his woman has done "wrong," he doesn't feel as guilty when he goes out and commits his own wrongs.




8. The Take-Out Order Cheater

This guy is in a relationship where the woman uses s*x as a bargaining chip. When the wife or girlfriend tries to deprive him of s*x in order to manipulate him, he simply goes out and gets s*x elsewhere.

He doesn't cheat to make a statement or to prove any kind of point. He cheats because he still needs his s*xual needs met. These guys think like this: if there is no food in the house, a man isn't going to sit in the house and starve. He's going to go out and pick up something at a drive through, fast-food place.

And he has the same mentality when it comes to s*x. If the s*x supply has shut down at home, his s*xual desires don't go away. So he goes out and gets "take-out order" s*x from strippers, hookers, or call girls. A strip club is like a take-out food drive-through window to him: he just pulls up and places his order. "I'd like two titties and some ass please... and make that to go. Thank you." He does his deed, he goes back home, and it's back to the normal program.

Now that I have given an in-depth view of the common cheating-type men that are out there, we need to get into part two of this issue. Because there are women who will still date these guys, knowing full well what they are capable of. So we are going to get into the issue of why many women enable these types of relationships.





Here's a few signs to look for to see if you might be in a relationship with a cheater. Some of these are obvious. Some of them are a little more subtle. Nevertheless, if you see any of these signs, you should consider them potential red flags.

1. All of a sudden he starts working late.

2. He guards his cell phone like the secret service (so you won't pick it up if it rings, or so you don't look at the stored numbers).

3. He suddenly starts wearing new cologne and putting relaxers in his hair.

4. He starts "getting his workout on" at the gym all of a sudden.

5. He wants to try new freaky s*xual acts on you out of the blue. (If he suddenly wants you to tie him up and pee on him, that's a real red flag.)

6. He seems to purposely start arguments or he nitpicks over petty things.

7. He suddenly starts hanging with known players and poon hounds.

8. He comes in the house acting extra nice all of a sudden.

9. He starts showering a lot.

10. If he says things like "I'm running to the grocery store real quick," but he has on "gators" and he's bling blingin', that's a red flag.