am i an "upity" black?

so yesterday my grams wanted me to go to the pastors house so she can give them some food and she just wanted me to ride along.....i was in my pj's and didnt feel like changin my clothes and doing my hair so i was like aiight but im not gonna get out the car....so we get to the pastors house and my grams takes in the the food so like 5 mins pass and the pastors wife comes out and goes well u could of come inside but since i dont live in a mansion u decided not to come in am im like what?...she says well when i buy a mansion or get a better lookin house thats when u will want to come in right?....i tried explain to her that i didnt come in b/c i was only in my pj's and i felt i didnt look the part but all she kept doing was repeating herself.....i just sat and thought about that and was like does she really think i didnt go into her house b/c i think her house isnt good enough for me to go into???......i dont live in a mansion so where did she get that from???....she might of been joking but it didnt feel like it was a joke...am i takin this deeper than it is or is there some hostilness in the way she said it????