How should she approach the situation?
My friend is a little disturb and when i heard the situation i too was a little stunned when i heard the situation. Not because of what this person has within them im surprised that the person decided to keep this to himself. Anyway my friend called me up crying and upset because she found out something about her man. He had been acting weird lately and staying out late. At first i thought this was like another relationship for her down the drain because the dude was doing her dirty but me and her were wrong. Now i know the meaning of dont assume because it makes an a** out of you and me well it did. My friend she was search through some paper working in her room by her desk and came across some medical papers that had her man's name on it. She brushed them aside and kept looking for the paper work she was looking for. before she came to her papers she cames across another paper with some information on cancer and treatments for it. She became concerned and decided she would just drop the subject and look for her papers later but as she was about to organize everything before leaving the room she came across some papers that came off the computer,(yall know printed off the computer) She looked at them and it was an email from someone who was talkin to her man directly, She said it was talking about cancer support groups and ways to deal with it.
She called me later and told me all of this and she was just like how could he hide something like this from her and all this. The only think i could tell her was maybe he thought he couldn't tell you because of the way your going to react. I mean girl was pacing and started talking about if he dies and all this other stuff. I just looked at her like she was losing her mind talking about suicide and all this other stuff. Im like girl you see how you reacting right now, thats probably why he didn't tell you. I didnt know what else to say to her so i just told her if she needs someone to talk to then she should come to me. She asked me how she can approach the situation and not make it a hostile one. Ya'll know without making it seem like she was snooping through his stuff and things like that.
How do yall think she should handle this. Yall think he should have told her what was going on or was he waiting for a real way to tell her?
She called me later and told me all of this and she was just like how could he hide something like this from her and all this. The only think i could tell her was maybe he thought he couldn't tell you because of the way your going to react. I mean girl was pacing and started talking about if he dies and all this other stuff. I just looked at her like she was losing her mind talking about suicide and all this other stuff. Im like girl you see how you reacting right now, thats probably why he didn't tell you. I didnt know what else to say to her so i just told her if she needs someone to talk to then she should come to me. She asked me how she can approach the situation and not make it a hostile one. Ya'll know without making it seem like she was snooping through his stuff and things like that.
How do yall think she should handle this. Yall think he should have told her what was going on or was he waiting for a real way to tell her?
Everything happens for a reason, and I'm sure he has his for not telling her. He may feel like she may not understand because she is not in his shoes. But she shouldn't act like anything has changed, and show him that he can count on her no matter what happens.