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friendship to relationship in course of a day?

LaShonda Redd · Monday, July 11th 2005 at 11:18AM · 130 views
Okay do you guys out there have someone in your life of the opposite s*x that ya'll consider your brother or sister but isn't blood related? You know, you call a guy your close to your brother or a girl your close to your lil sister? Anyway I have this problem right. I am a down to earth and cool kind of girl who alot of guys claim as their sister. Anyway i was really close to one more than others and we chill at each others house and go to the mall and all that stuff. The problem being his best friend came up to me and told me that he doesn't want me to be his sister no more. I was kind of hurt until he told me the next part. He was like yeah he wants to talk to you as a female now not his sister. Im like okay what the hell is he talkin about. In other words he wants to date me. Now me and him have known each other since we were like 5 and despite experimenting kissing the boy next door he has always been my brother. My question is how do i tell him in a nice way that we can't be a couple because were family. Its like being incested, it just wont work. What do u do when ya brother no longer looks at you as his sister but as someone he is s*xually attacted to? Where did these feelings come from and why did they develope so quickly and spontaniously? Help me
Im out
Shonda

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Monica Brown Monday, July 11th 2005 at 1:09PM

Good Morning, Baby Girl. Well, maybe his feelings didn't develop quickly. You guys spend a lot of time together and maybe it's happened over time. Sometimes these things don't work, but sometimes they do. I married my best friend. In high school we were only friends. I knew all his business and he knew all mine. After I had gone to college and he had gone to the Navy, we became more than friends and will celebrate our 15th anniversary in December. Think about it. You know him better than any other boy you will meet. Is he boyfriend material? It just might work. Then you have the other stories where they don't turn out so good. I think most of them happen that way, though because the feelings are not mutual. Don't just say no. Think about it. It just might work.

Mama Mo

Darryl D. Smith Monday, July 11th 2005 at 1:22PM

Man...I know how he feels. As one of my friends said...it's impossible to know someone for a long time and not feel any s*xual feelings about them. I've been in this situation, but I always see it better to remain friends as you never know what a relationship may do to affect your friendship. Tell him that you not feeling him because he family. Now, don't you turn around and get jealous if he starts dating either. Good luck to you. However, you may be feeling him and not know it. Check it out....and do what's best for you...

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