Step-mom a role that I can't play.
What's up first of all to everyone. I have known this guy "C" for a while. Around 3 months ago we decided that we would try to be more than just friends. Well, "C" was holding a secret from me. His so called good friend was pregnant and she gave birth to twins at the end of April. Well, when I found out it wasn't from him. His mother was the one that told me, and this was in May after we had offically became more than friends. I didn't mind the babies at first because well they are babies. But now him and his "baby mamma" ( I still don't know her real name ) argue more than ever before. I don't want to play tha role of stepmom to his kids or anybodies kids for that matter. I have hinted around to it a few times. You see, I don't know how it is where you live but down here in Mississippi tha baby mamma usually bring a lot of stupid drama. I don't have tha time for it. I don't want to cut all ties with him because we've gotten a long so well. But I don't want to deal with tha drama. At the moment we are more than friends but we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend. He wants to be but I don't. I'm so tired of tha girl that I almost don't like to talk to him when he id driving them home. How do I tell him how I feel without being mean? I still want him as a friend but not as a boyfriend.
Best advice is to move on. That lady will be in his life forever. She is the mother of his twins and even if there isn't any drama, she has the right to be in his life. If you are not looking to play stepmom, then you need to keep it moving. Those twins aren't going anywhere and if he continues to argue with her, she will make it hard on him and attach some child support papers to him which will be in effect until those twins are 21 or become emancipated from their mother, whichever comes first. My husband has 2 sons he fathered the summer after he graduated high school and before he went into the Navy. Both boys are 18 and live in the state of Mississippi, but we still have 3 years left of child support payments which currently total approximately $900 per month. Trust me... If you don't want to play the very rewarding, but also very difficult role of a stepmom, keep it moving. Tell him that he has responsibilities that you have not decided to include in your life right now and you just can't share in them. That is taking care of Krystal and not being mean at all. Good luck, Baby Girl!!
Mama Mo