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Attention All Ladies!!!!!!! (and you men, too!)

Attention All Ladies!!!!!!! (and you men, too!)

· Tuesday, June 7th 2005 at 1:14PM · 133 views
If A Man Wants YOU!!!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition
(or
spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to
be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what
makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."

A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he
is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any
differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,
speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you

later.
You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if
he
has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a
quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.


All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two
way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not
supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...When a man always know where you are, and
you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
(Hallelujah, thank you Lord!)

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you
need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to
appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget
them.

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Comments (2)

Caramel Velle Tuesday, June 7th 2005 at 2:30PM

Good stuff! I think it is good advice that can go both ways. I really appreciate the fact that it promotes uplift without degrading anyone. It just comes across as good advice. Keep it comin! Lata!

Candis Ames-Morton Wednesday, June 8th 2005 at 2:39PM

finally some good non-double standard on advice....

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