I'm SOO Confused!!

See... I have this problem. But let me just start off by saying that I just lost a real close friend, he was like a brother to me! His name is Stan. I am deeply saddened by this....its hurts so bad! 5 yrs. of a friendship just gone at the drop of a dime. That's just how fast it happened. But it just so happens that my boyfriend (TJ) and Stan became real good friends within the last 10 months or so and they ended at the same college together (MSU). Now..I would about 4 months ago I stopped speaking to Stan bcuz of a certain lil incident that occurred but every now and then I would speak to him and just when I was going to actually tell him that I forgive him he passes. My boyfriend is an emotional wreck now and he doesn't say much of anything to anybody. I understand his pain though...Stan was like the brother I never had. I keep trying to comfort him but being so many states away its hard for me and he's the only one I feel that can comfort me and he says he just can't express his feelings to anyone right now. What should I do?? Should I just let him heal on his own or keep forcing it?? Prom is coming up, graduation, everything, its just too much to handle. Help me!!