There are a plethora of reasons someone might subconsciously swing from one mood to another, but when the mood swinger blames someone else for their erratic behavior it might make for the suggestion of either prayer or therapy; or both. This is especially the case when no previous explanation or answer is offered to the person being blamed for the mood swinger’s adverse reaction when being asked the straightforward question, “What’s wrong?”
I certainly can’t speak for anyone else when I state that spending my valuable time trying to CONSTANTLY figure out what someone might have been thinking when he/she catapulted them self into the proverbial “Twilight Zone” isn’t my idea of fun.
I might speculate, though, about someone else’s thoughts, especially if it’s in the philosophical sense or perhaps to find a neutral ground of understanding, but come on – But some people, however, seem to thrive off of their inability to communicate their thoughts. And, some of those people also seriously expect others to have known exactly what he/she was thinking or feeling during their bout with insanity.
In all seriousness, though, to deal with some of those types of people I am compelled to remember the basis of a sermon given by minister/televangelist T.D. Jakes, about being receptive enough to God’s will towards finding a “sanctuary” in the midst of a situation of upheaval.
Anyway, I’ve recently had to reach deep down inside my soul to find that sanctuary as I became embattled in hurtful words with someone I still, in spite of them self, consider a friend. That friend used some very harsh words to combat their apparent reluctance to tell me what their problem was. Then, after a series of mean-spirited words, the person declared that I should have known something was wrong – But that wasn’t my troublesome concern. It was that that person also declared that I should have known EXACTLY what the problem was.
I’m not going to divulge what that person stated their problem was, but I will state that there was no way on God’s green earth I would have reached the conclusion they presented to me, especially since the trouble was about an issue regarding one of their friends whom I knew nothing about, at least I was never given the opportunity to determine whether I even knew the other person. It took everything in me to keep from joining that person’s dive into the pool of momentary insanity. Anyway, after accepting that that person was just too emotional to make sense, I apologized to that person, not for the situation they were dealing with, but for some of the words I had spoken out of my frustration of trying to figure out what had been their problem.
In retrospect, though, I believe both of us could have chosen our words more wisely. But moving forward, at least in my opinion, my perspective on the friendship with that person has been strengthened not just because I decided a long time ago to not ever turn my back on someone I considered one of my friends, but because I do know that person has gone through and is going through spiritual warfare.
That’s not to say that others have stuck by me when times were tough for me because I’ve lost many a so-called friend when I needed them the most, but then again, I can’t speak for them. I can only do my part to be a friend. [Thank you God!]
On the other hand, remaining someone’s friend isn’t that difficult when you were aware of the kind of person he/she was from the beginning. The beginning – that’s an important piece of the puzzle for many relationships, platonically or romantically. And, at times, some, more than others, just might keep you in a perpetual state of prayer. “Amen.”
- By Jane L. Wilson
Posted By: Jane L. Wilson
Wednesday, July 12th 2006 at 12:32PM
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