Relaying an email that came my way, feel free to comment if You like*
Words from Pastor Jamaal Harrison Bryant - For the Ladies
I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who
can take care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone
who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from
poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be
impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place.
When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live
better, and eat bette r, not constantly be in a struggle over where
her
next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, "I can do bad
all
by myself". For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course,
would
be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals,
accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't
just be approached any kind of way. So the woman who seeks this type
of
stability must make sure that she stands out above the crowd:
1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out,
your
presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you
seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
4. And most importantly, allow the Holy Spirit to take control. You
do n't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because
after
he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence,he's
going
to want to know who you are!
I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasing after the
"man
of your dreams," but God says, "Just sit still and allow patience to
have her perfect work through Me."
Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too
aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed
with
him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever
developing
a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and
question your character. However, if he sees that you are dressed with
quality, that you smell like you are somebody, that you look like
you're
doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from
him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking
so
needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart.
God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, "The same thing
that
Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do for me."
God is so sick of saints coming to Him trying to get a quickie and
never
romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and
hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop
trying
to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship
and
praise: "I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!"
This is for those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.
Posted By: WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III
Friday, February 10th 2006 at 3:14PM
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