Greetings:
I posted this article at another black website.
This was quite a few months ago.
People had been debating for months.
Many of the women there are older, in another generation and are not in the same group as you are being college students.
You will find that many of the things many people say here are stated in age ranges from 30 to 70+.
I had been hesitant to state my viewpoints. I was asked to comment and so I did.
I had written many articles catered to the women there.
I expected to get sand blasted by many of the angry women there, but I was shocked as far as the positivity, the amount of emails and agreeance at that website. There were maybe 2 who were upset at me.
I recall receive over 200 emails from that site that day.
Again I am answering much of what I saw at that website and this is catered to them, but prayerfully someone here can use for positive benefits and knowledge.
I was hesitant to post this here and I dwelled on it and decided to post this anyway.
By the way, many of those women that had been in numerous relationships, HAD THE SAME PROBLEMS FROM WHEN THEY WERE AS YOUNG AS YOU AND YOUNGER. THEY WERE SAYING THE SAME THINGS FOR 20, 30, 40 AND 50 MRS.
THINK ABOUT IT....................
My Article:
It perplexes and torments me when I see all these profiles i.e, strong black man, leader, provider, romantic, financially secure etc.
I have been intrigued and communicated with some of these ppl.
What are my findings?
1. You tell him everything you demand.
2. You tell him everything he needs to change about him.
3. You use your Psych to try to get him to alter his thinking.
4. You tell him all the ways in which you can not compromise.
5. You vent at him from the pains of the past.
6. You chastise him about finaces you want him to provide for you, but your bank acct. does not have a thousand $$$ in it, you are in debt, you have no $$$$ making ideas and your idea of an advanced degree is doing hair respectfully.
7. You tell him to be a Christian but you do not present yourself as one.
8. You want him kind and patient, but you demand and show him attitude.
9. You want him to come at you with no one else in view, but you ironically have more than just 1 or 2. He fits all the criteria but you continue to feed off the attention you evidentally receive, while expecting him to wait and hold on. You can not drop your Profile(for some), but he needs to drop his, Lol!!!!!
10. He has to move to you, instead of you move to him.
11. You approach him with all the things he is not looking for in a woman, but you state ALL the things you are not looking for in a man and needing one to be.
12. When a man fits the criteria you ask for in your Profile, you run with complaints, ignorance and excuses to deal with less than what is not going to work out for you, but you will claim being heartbroken. By the way he moves on and now you want him to turn back.
13. You want him to continuously grow and aspire while you try to mentally remain youthful instead of in appearance.
14. You play more games exponentially multiplied by the loudness of your complaints. Oh how hypocritical and asinine(yes this is a dictionary word).
15.You are never statisfied but he has to be with you?
16. Just like the wise words of someone in chat last night, "booty ain't intelligent, the mind should be".
17. Keep your legs closed and stop sending out your pheremones and the dogs will stop. Juanita Bynum alluded to this in "No more sheets". The dogs come after what you are, not what you state. Think about it.
18. Women out number men. Women can do a better job then men in covering their trails. A man can cheat and needs time to recoup. A woman does not have to do that, you know the ways in what I mean or imply. If all men cheat, there has to be a woman to cheat with. Women outnumber men what 8:1?
19. Look at all the games women play here also, stop just talking about the games that men play here.
20. I hate going to chat sometimes because a woman that is supposedly and states mature(35+) comes on to initiate debates which is not a sign of intelligence. That is basic animal instinct. Of course we are expected to ignore for the sake of showing we are mature and chivalrous. I do not buy into that. Too many women come in demanding that a man cowers and gives in to her to show he is a real man by stating/ or demanding he admit, "You are smarter than I". I would insult myself by stating a fallacy.
Historical fact still states Adam was here 1st, given all the intelligence to share with Eve that was equal in intelligence from the capacity of what Adam was supposed to educate her.
21. You vent about all what you need for a man to do, but you state you do not need? Roles of men and women are so blurred from what a man is supposed to do compared with what a woman is supposed to do. Yes we still have roles albeit confused in todays roles.
22. I am not the one with the profile with a fallacy about my age, fallacy about children(which one is it ? Do you have 0 kids or 15?), fallacy about being single and uncommitted, fallacy about etc.etc.etc.
*of course I will be taken out of context by somebody, refusing to see what I state here out of love, never hate. This is for the shoes that will fit in reference to responses to what I post. Just read the profiles of those who may respond adversely. I sacrifice any repoire I may have here to show my points.
"Be what you ask for and the man will follow and exceed you"
Same William folks, just stating my 2cents worth.
"God" Bless
Posted By: WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III
Thursday, October 6th 2005 at 12:54PM
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