I received this email today from another friend.
There is such mass confusion on what Manhood really means. I found this deep and chose to share this with you no matter Male/Man, Female/Woman.
Knowledge is for those who choose to use it and for fools to reject it and suffer and complain. A scripture?
Feel free to read Proverbs 1.
Also in the book of Proverbs it states wisdom and knowledge shouts out at you from everywhere and from roof tops.
You get dogged, God blames you if not in proper context.
When I felt I had been wronged, after a while I looked into myself. It could not have happened without me 1st. I got over it quicker. If you have been dogged more than 1 or 2 times in your life well........
The bible states, you be not deceived, but most women desire a BAD boy:-).
And when they get the Bad affects, they cry, complain and tell everyone how unpredictable, abusive, unstable etc. he was.
But, you wanted a bad boy for those that apply in words and in actions.
Who picked, who allowed?
Truth is truth and women by the way told me this as a woman told her son in Proverbs 31:3,
"Give not thy strength unto women(remember the Bible is neutral gender in many areas, if you are a female/woman this is the same for you), nor thy ways to that which destroys Kings/Queens.
*Remember denial blinds, sight sees.*
The Email:"As Iron Sharpens Iron So One Man Sharpens Another "
The Transition Into Manhood
By Kendall Ficklin
What is your definition of a Man? If you ask that question to a
group of men you'll hear many different answers depending upon
environment and upbringing. Some may say he is a man when he has
reached a certain age, some may say when he has moved out from under
mom's roof and has his own car and apartment, and some believe that
making a certain amount of money is attaining manhood. None of these
things, however, are characteristics of a man. Manhood is a process,
a transition from maleness.
The chart below states some of the differences between a male and a
man.
Are You A Male Or A Man
Males Are Born But Men Are Made
Being a man is not easy, especially when you understand a man's
roles and responsibilities. I was speaking with a brother one day,
and he said to me, "Bro, this being a man thing is hard!" I knew
exactly where he was coming from. Walking in manhood can be
overwhelming because were going through the process of being
reshaped, renewed, restored and completely retrained.
Most of us have been operating as males with sprinklings of manhood.
For example, some of us may find a good woman, marry her, provide
for her financially, sometimes emotionally, and do most things
right. After about nine months to a year when she starts "trippin"
because we're hanging out with the fellas, that's when we meet the
other woman and revert to being a male. You see, a man has emotions
but is not ruled by them. So when his wife starts "trippin", he
doesn't allow her actions to dictate his reaction. A man understands
that he is held accountable by God for the way he treats his wife
regardless of the way she may be treating him.
The Making Of A Man
God created man to have dominion, to be a ruler, and to master his
environment He created us in the beginning to be totally dependent
on Him, He taught us directly. He instructed us and gave us our
assignments. So, the making of a man was founded in and through Him.
The only way this transition into manhood can take place is that we
go back to Him.
1 Corinthians 13:11 states "When I was a child, I spake as a child,
I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a
man, I put away childish things".
Keys To Becoming A Real Man
God created man to be a Provider, Protector, Cultivator, Visionary,
and Leader
Provider: In Genesis 2:15 God put His man, Adam in a garden and gave
him his first assignment, to work. Work was given to him to advance
the purpose of God. God wanted Adam to have fulfillment, and to
enable him to provide for his own needs as well as those for whom he
would eventually be.
Notice that before he gave the man a woman he gave him work.
Therefore a man needs work before he takes on a wife. A provider finds a way to supply for his family's need. He plans ahead and anticipates needs before they arise.
Protector: When God put us in the garden to take care of it, not
only did he want us to work in it and cultivate it, but he wanted us
to also protect it, and all the animals, the plants, and the woman
that he put there for us. We are natural protectors, designed by God to protect everything we
are responsible for.
Cultivator: To cultivate means to make something better than it was
when you first received it. Look at your woman, how many of us are
really cultivating our women?
Single Brothers: You should be cultivating every woman that comes
into your circle. They should leave you a better person, NOT
Pregnant, or emotionally abused after we've run so much game on
them.
Married Men: We have this picture in our minds of what we want our
wives to be and when she doesn't measure up to that we blame her.
Ask yourself, what have you put into her? What kind of deposits have
you made into her spirit? Have you cultivated her to be what you
envision? Or what she envisions for herself? Do you know what her
goals and dreams are? How are you helping her achieve them.
A woman is like a seed, and we are water and light for her. If we
pour into her and shine our light on her, she will blossom into a
beautiful, compassionate, nurturing, submissive, help meet. Then you
can look at her proudly and say "look at what I have cultivated".
Visionary: Proverbs 29:18 says "Where there is no vision the people
perish". To have vision means to conceive something in your mind and
then move toward bringing that vision into reality.
Every man should have a vision for his life. If he is married, he
should have a vision for his family. The vision should include but
not limited to Faith, Family, and Finances. We should have short
term and long term goals, and they should be attainable.
Most of us don't have a vision for our family and we wonder why our
wives and children won't submit to us. Brothers, look at the word
submission, the prefix "sub" means under, and mission simply means
goal or vision. So submitting is coming under one's goals and
vision. Well, brother she won't submit if you don't have a vision
for her to submit under.
Leader: Every man is created by God to lead and a man should display
leadership characteristics. Some men run away from the
responsibility of leadership. They are selfish, only concerned about
their own needs and not the needs of others.
Take a look at some leadership characteristics listed below:
A leader is a servant
A leader is disciplined
A leader is the first one up in the morning and the last one to go to bed
A leader sets the tone
A leader has integrity
A leader has character
A leader's word is his bond
A leader is a role model
A leader provides, protects, cultivates, and has vision
A leader leads by example
Men, we are on our way. The first step was reading this article. Now
you know what a man is, God winks at ignorance but holds us all
responsible for what we know.
Let's start the transition into manhood now!
Posted By: WILLIAM W. HEMMANS III
Wednesday, October 5th 2005 at 2:10PM
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