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Man...I don't know what to do... (505 hits)

Normally, you guys see me responding to blogs, giving the best advice I know. Now I need some advice.

With all this talk of friends/good relationships with significant others, it has caused me to question some things in my life. I just realized...I'm not happy with it.

I love my career, college, and all that stuff. However, I hate my social life. I have only 4 people I know I can count on to talk to: my mom, Ashly, Chika, and Nicole. Now, my mom is a given. She's a blessing to me. Ashly...I don't know how this will play out as you know girls are known for using people (not singling you out ladies). Chika...that's my homegirl, and I'll do anything for her. Nicole, we just met, but she real cool, and will always be there for me (at least right now).

Now, those are only four people. They all have lives that they are leading, so they can't hear me all the time. Me...I have no one besides them. I mean, I know a LOT of people...but there is no one really besides them (not including my net buddies).

It's cool to have peeps on the net and stuff...but it's not the same as having someone right there. Out of the four people I named, only one is right there for me to talk to and that's my mom.

I've been wondering, "Is it me?" Is it my fault I don't have more friends and whatnot? Is it my fault that things go bad a lot?

I'm just hella confused right now. I don't know. I'm depressed, and I know I don't have a chemical imbalance or anything like that, so I'm a normal adult. I don't know...what do you think?

Posted By: Darryl D. Smith
Friday, July 8th 2005 at 3:54PM
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you need to pray more!
Friday, July 8th 2005 at 4:59PM
anita adams

Darryl, I believe that we all come to point where we have to look at ourselves and wonder where am I now. I believe that's what you are going through. Sometimes having your mom is all that you need to share your problems and feelings with. I know men or different from women in expressing themselves. I believe that once you go on with your life, you will learn more about yourselves and find someone who you could share your heart with! And pray as what was stated before. I hope this helps!

Friday, July 8th 2005 at 5:34PM
Makiva Renee' Van Buren

Whats up man. I'm going through the same thing too. Only advice I can give you is to just keep doing what your doing. My mom always told me and I'm sure yours probably told you "friends come and go". Maybe you should try new things or goto different places and meet new people. For me I did'nt like what some individuals were doing so I chilled by myself even though it was awfully boring. I'd rather keep my couple of friends and just keep talking to my mom then get some new ones that cause me grief. So don't think it is something wrong with you when a true friend comes along you'll know. For now keep ya head up and mind on school, your career, and all off the other stuff. Your social life is going to catch soon.
Friday, July 8th 2005 at 5:36PM
Marcus Sampson

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I'll tell you this from experience..the more friends you have the more trouble and confusion you will have in life so don't worry about how many friends you have. At least you have those four you mentioned. I don't have many friends I can count on or talk to either so we in the same boat. Just do you and enjoy life. God has a reason for everything.
Friday, July 8th 2005 at 5:52PM
Keisha Parris

Wassup Darryl Yeah i agree with Marcus cause friends do come and go and im like you i only have my family to talk to i dont really consider anyone really my close friend. I mean i have people i chill with and all that but i just cant seem to find someone to get close to like that. I mean I see life as if it happens then there's a reason why it happens. Maybe there's a good reason why we dont have really close friends. Maybe God is trying to tell us that people we already have in our lives are all we need. Maybe your mom is all you need in your life. I learned to be content with just being close to my family and even though you are popular with your blog advice you still have someone real to talk to other than us. Be happy that you have those 4 people in your life cause there are people who dont have no one to talk to.
Im out
Shonda
Friday, July 8th 2005 at 5:59PM
LaShonda Redd

Darryl you are not alone man. I have one or two friends i can talk to, excluding my mom and God. I hate more less than a year ago, but some of my favorite people have made turns for the worse, and i'm thankful that i'm no longer associated with them on the level I once was because I would be in much grief right now. Like Marcus said your social life will come naturally, just continue to be you and those who see the good in you will accept you for who you are! Just continue to strive in school and with your career. And continue to observe those other three you named to see how they pan out. PEACE & LOVE -=Fresh=-
Friday, July 8th 2005 at 7:53PM
Jamar Simmons

Well it's not just you. I'm the same way. :-( Maybe we choose not to have many friends. I can count only on one hand how many FRIENDS I have. My mom, my boyfriend(that's my bestfriend), Ciara, Candace, ok well that's only four. I've had so many associates throughout the years, but I've let go of so many of them because I know I don't need to be hanging around them. I let go of so many of them because they would just be pulling me away from the goals in life I have for myself. So maybe its our inner self that knows best. I don't know but I do know you're not alone. God's got your back, so something/someone will come soon!! Just be patient
Saturday, July 9th 2005 at 2:20PM
LaToia Marzette

Well well well....my turn to give u sum advise. Ur always responding to my blogs and I figured its about time I respond to 1 of urs. Well to be honest I have been there done that! I know how ur feeling. First there is nothing wrong wit u! Everyone gets down every once in awhile (Im a good example of that!) Also I know that as we grow older, the # of TRUE friends decrease. U just have to hold on to the true friends u do have and let time takes its course. I mean Ur girl might be goin thru sumthing that takes time to get over but I know how it is when u want sumone to talk to and they are not there 4 u. Just hol on to them, work things out cuz u only have a FEW TRUE FRIENDS, and always keep ur mom as a friend cuz moms are the best friends anyone can have (I know my mom is!) Hope that helps u out alil. I also want u to know that I'm also there 4 u if ya need nething cuz I believe that Im a good friend and u never know.....I could become one of ur FEW TRUE FRIENDS!
Sunday, July 10th 2005 at 3:27AM
Tiffany Wells

i understand how you feel, and i dont think that it is your fault. good friends are hard to come by and sure if you were just looking for someone to chill with pick anyone, but to confide in and be open with someone takes a lot of searching and it is hard to find someone who you trust...keep looking God has many things in store for you...you seem like a nice guy and i cant see why you only have 4 friends, you gotta have other aquaintances........im here if you need to talk ericaj16@hotmail.com or erica.smith@shaw.af.mil or misse1217@yahoo.com holla at ya gyrl ANYTIME
Tuesday, July 26th 2005 at 3:31PM
Erica S